Ana Faguy,
James FitzGerald and
Nardine Saad
Getty PhotosThe ex-husband of pop star Britney Spears offers new particulars on the pair’s tense relationship in his new memoir You Thought You Knew.
Kevin Federline, her one-time backing dancer, presents an image of Spears’s allegedly erratic behaviour as a spouse and mom, and says he continues to have considerations for her wellbeing.
Spears has spoken out in opposition to the ebook, which will probably be printed on Tuesday, and accuses Federline of attempting to revenue from his affiliation together with her.
What does the ebook say about Spears?
Federline makes a variety of allegations in opposition to Spears, within the memoir shared with the BBC forward of the ebook’s launch by writer Listenin.
He accuses Spears of unhealthy behaviour as a mom, together with ingesting when she was pregnant and taking cocaine whereas her two sons had been nonetheless breastfeeding. Spears has beforehand denied having substance abuse points.
Once they had been youngsters, the couple’s sons had been petrified of Spears, Federline additionally alleges. “They might awaken typically at night time to seek out her standing silently within the doorway, watching them sleep – ‘Oh, you are awake?’ – with a knife in her hand,” he writes. “Then she’d flip round and pad off with out clarification.”
Federline additionally expresses his concern for his estranged ex-wife, writing: “The reality is, this case with Britney feels prefer it’s racing towards one thing irreversible. From the place I sit, the clock is ticking, and we’re getting near the eleventh hour.”
He writes that he was supportive of a conservatorship, underneath which many facets of Spears’s life had been managed by others for years, and described it as a “lifeline” in its early days.
He claims Spears noticed the occasions in her life “by way of a prism that painted her because the sufferer, the misunderstood one”, however that she “wanted assist” and was “in no state to responsibly handle her personal affairs”.
Of the Free Britney motion, Federline writes that he may “by no means absolutely get behind it”.
What is the historical past of their relationship?
The pair acquired collectively in the summertime of 2004, as Spears’s preliminary industrial peak began to wane.
They married a couple of months later and shortly welcomed their two sons: Preston, now 20, and Jayden, now 19.
Spears filed for divorce in 2006 and the divorce was finalised in 2007.
The couple fought publicly over custody of their sons and in the end Federline was given sole custody of the boys.
Within the wake of Federline getting full custody, Spears was seen behaving in a means that Federline characterises in his ebook as erratic.
She made headlines with incidents like shaving her head and hitting a photographer’s automotive with an umbrella.
These public incidents raised concern about her psychological welfare, and after she was taken to hospital twice, a brief conservatorship was established in 2008 and made everlasting later that yr.
Spears remained underneath that controversial association till 2021, underneath which her father and others managed her funds and facets of her private life. She didn’t regain custody of her kids till after it was lifted.
Federline remembers that point as being “like watching somebody slowly lose management of their life”.
“I’ve misplaced religion that issues will ever absolutely flip round, however I nonetheless hope that Britney can discover peace,” he provides.
What has Spears stated?
Spears has accused Federline of attacking her throughout his current press appearances to advertise the ebook. She described the contents of the memoir as “extraordinarily hurtful and exhausting”, however prompt the work would promote higher than her personal memoir had executed.
In that ebook, The Girl in Me, Spears accused her ex-husband of attempting to “persuade everybody I used to be fully uncontrolled”.
Spears has additionally defended her relationship together with her sons. “I’ve all the time pleaded and screamed to have a life with my boys,” she wrote on social media on 15 October, including that “relationships with teenage boys is advanced”.
In an announcement to US media, a Spears spokesperson added: “With information from Kevin’s ebook breaking, as soon as once more he and others are profiting off her and sadly it comes after baby assist has ended with Kevin. All she cares about are her children, Sean Preston and Jayden James, and their well-being throughout this sensationalism. She detailed her journey in her memoir.”
The BBC has contacted Federline’s lawyer for touch upon Spears’s counter-accusations.
Why is that this occurring now?
Whereas the pair dominated headlines throughout their relationship and subsequent divorce, Federline specifically has largely remained out of the limelight in recent times. And lately, the highlight on Spears has largely been over her social media postings.
Federline has stated he thought of writing a ebook for a few years however wished to attend till his kids had been older to finish it as a result of he didn’t need make the load of the world “heavier” on their shoulders.
“That is about lastly telling my story,” he writes. “My model. In my phrases. As a result of all people else has executed it for me. The media. The blogs. The exes. The strangers. The jokes. The headlines. All of them had one thing to say about me. And I stayed quiet.”
He denies claims that he “was simply coasting off her cash” and insists he was “on the market hustling, grinding, investing —working to construct a stable basis for myself and my children”.
He says he averted responding publicly to media studies about him over time as a result of he wished to guard his family members and provides his children “some form of regular life”.
“However silence did not carry peace. It left me choking on the phrases I by no means stated,” he provides.

